He is seeing if I would be an option again because thats what a parasite like he is does to women. Now he refuses to move out and keep professing to take his stuff out. My ex pulled the same crap. After that an tekst said peace and have a nice life. But know in my mind rationaly that is not good, I dont have to need his approval that i am ok. When he gives me the old lets meet for dinner line I tell him yea when I free up. By this point, hed been trying to call/text for four weeks, why not send a letter? Anyway, I never got a response from my last text and Im sure exs buddies got on the horn and passed the word that this man was driving my car. I was obsessing about him even though my life was going well. I just had a kinda lengthy reply typed here and computer booted me out before I cound send-dammit. So if your narcissistic ex-partner calls threatening to take their life, theyre more than likely pulling your bluff in hopes that youll feel so sorry for them and be so worried that theyll actually do it, you come running back. Number app on my phone when he left and i deleted his number, pics etc off my phone. Even if she wanted to talk to me, I doubt she would since she owes me so much money. I cant thank God enough for helping me find the way out of the darkness. [] 3) Hoovering Hoovering presents in many forms. They always have to keep that web in the background intact, and youre a part of it now. Just remember, the average person leaves their emotional/physical abuser 7 times before actually fulling walking out on them! Only uses him when its convienant for him. Cause I relised his nana health situation was often used as excuse yes cheating. I always felt ashamed when we went out because theyd just throw on anything.. I AM A BASKET CASE TODAY ITS BEEN 2 YRS N I STILL THINK ABOUT HIM EVERY SINGLE DAY WONDERING WHY I WASNT ENOUGH. My heart is holding on for dear life, even tho I dont want to! I will survive. I recognize this sooo much, beauty and charm come with a high price. Once they do, they will start fighting back by creating a trauma bond. Dont buy it. The illness ot causes tumors has been back for 10 months.New and long gone with the other woman, I am not part of his circle of friends and family. He does have borderline traits as well. When he came bak he hated me and punished me . So from this point onvten years ago til now had has been Im control. She was indeed charming to me and loved her smile and her extroverted personality at the time(Im a bit introverted). The narcissist will try and convince you that theres something wrong with you for not staying friends. Get When Love Is a Lie - $5.99. I am out over 5 years and the first few years post break up were torture. I dont understand why he really doesnt leave me . He left me for someone else. So, having read on all these since 2009 so far, I concluded, THIS IS MY VERY SUBJECTIVE CONCLUSION, I WOULDNT TELL ANYONE TO TAKE THIS AT THE FACE VALUE.. all Cluster B disorders COME WITH NPD ANYWAY. His last email this week was that he would prefer to speak to me not email, and that tomorrow isnt promised, and if/when Im ready I know how to reach him. at this point I had to do the no contact or else who knows, I would be okay until he explode again. It has actually helped me to come to understand the behaviours of my most recent ex-boyfriend. Are You Not Losing Sleep Wondering Why He Does What He Does? She blocked me from social media and owes me $3,000, so the motive for her to stay away is pretty strong. When the narcissist leaves and then returns, it dysregulates neurotransmitters in our brains. It happens slowly, over timeso that when the relationship comes to an end the victim doesnt know who they are anymore. Things were moving way too fast and that was mainly my fault. Your ex-partner may not even know. The woman whom he triangulated me against is not happy, because they use to meet and walk their dogs. I raged more than him since he drove me crazy at times. Telling them they are a Narc does nothing but enrage them. But i dont want to rush in to an other relationship still mourning him. Our nieghborhood has its own beach, were on the waterway. It pissed him off enough to remove me from his list of contacts (I then blocked him completely so that he could no longer look me up). Did not hear from him for a view days. I agree. I mean after all she has done to me I really am sorry for her pain. Although, sometimes he tried to help me. Anyway, I decided that when he came the next day, I was going to look the best hes ever seen me so I put on heels, stockings, skirt, low cut blouse, make up, fingernails done, White Diamonds perfume, hair loose and looking good. I spoke to him by email and regretted it. I made the mistake of answering that first call two months ago, I wont make it again. I am a happy person by nature but a friend said i almost never smile now. I received a text from her shortly after her borrowing the money that she had a check in the mail for me! that was my only way to see j___ (grandchild). They are scorpions. Why so long?? Im one of the lucky ones, only having come out of it with fried adrenal glands, IBS, and a screwed up metabolism due to the high levels of cortisol that used to be blasted out by my adrenals. I know him well and everything he does is planned ahead. It is 5 chapters but very short. Unlike your ex, mine doesnt cop to anything hes done. Narcs and Psychos dont do this. Everyday its a struggle to get back to myself and he has caused so much emotional damage. He is very matetialistic, but about to lose everything because of his lack of accountability. Here are some of the statements you can expect your narcissist ex to make: The narcissist knows full well theyre crazy, and if you left, they know that you know. I dont know about the sex because he found it difficult to get it or keep it up towards the end of us as I was onto him and was setting boundaries, the stress was killing his libido I think, hence the reason this new target suits because she is careful and that suits him because he cant perform ? Regardless of how it happened, this exit is a destructive question that leaves a black hole in the foundation of our lives. Another one triangulated me etc. I also recognize the peace I feel would not be if we were anything more than what we are. She actually blocked me from her social media within just a few short weeks of me sending her a few texts about wondering where my money was. She was 16 he 27. I go to the park next to my house in the morning before work to relax. Next timeI wont allow myself to be around to hear or read the pleas. Ellen, if you dont mind me saying , I think your mistake was thinking you could be friends with this man. They really do. I kept waiting for him to get it and come running back with a sincere apology. Are you stuck in the back-and-forth of trying to go No Contact for good? I suppose that is the way of life in many situations but as I said before Im not letting THIS particular situation go without a fight. Im so confused. After six moths she was pregnant. Like what was said above, men are generally taught to remain strong and cover their feelings more often, which is why men dont post as much. I am optimistic and confident I will rediscover myself and feel love, self joy and a genuine joy and contentment from life again. This is creepily similar to a letter I received several years ago from a crazy narc the list of qualities is identical. Omg the i cant believe i put up with my ex narc for a year and a half..he was a classic..he was insane to believe i didnt see his games but in my boredom..low self esteem and yes my own insanity i stayed..but in a weird way im happy i went through it because i know what one is and it will never happen again..and i learned alot about myself in the process..he will be turning 59 this year..its going to suck dying alone . I send an angry mail he plays that other person also. I had been in an on and off again relationship with my Narc for 25 years and I finally broke free. There was never any financial links/obligations between us. Please tell me what helped you. Mine was of all things a . That person i first met disappeared after a month or two and thats what kept me trying so hard to make it work. All because I told him he was a liar and I didnt trust him. That was a month ago. So, if he dont like it and cant wait until I decide when I want to sit the boxes outside my door, he can call the sherriff and he can come by my house and Ill be happy to turn them ovr to him but my ex is not running anything here anymore. What I know is that narcissism really exists on a spectrum, although its easier and useful to think of narcissism as categories of individuals. Happy with girlfriend, but thinks you guys should be friends Translation: Somethings not on the up and up and/or he has discovered some way that getting back in touch with you will benefit him. The moment I would confront him, he would try to minimize the problem and it made me feel like I was the crazy one. He knew what to say. It is a battle on both ends. Kim, Fellow Survivor here. Thank you. Thats the best you can do? He then dragged me by the hair of my head out of our home and locked me out. Take time to calm yourself down: Go for a walk or do some exercise. When you click on SEND.. its sooo sad feeling. Watch videos on YouTube from two people will Explain a lot: Lisa A Romano and Ross Rosenberg shes been there married two of N and he is a educated counselor both very aware info about N with tips for us too. I sent him an email last week asking him not to contact me anymore. Now hes all settled and happy hes been wanting to have contact with the kids and for the past two weeks (every tues) for an hour I have allowed him access. All of the things she said were meaningless, despite me wanting to believe them. Hi Carole. There will be another. That same night, my friend took my car up to the gas station near my house to put air in the tires; this is the same place I met my ex narc and all his little truck driver friends hang out here. Good for you that you feel strong now. But as was the case with you, and all the partners they had before you, the new supply will eventually be devalued and discarded, too. I hope. I am not happy as love sick single on holiday. A narcissist will never move on from you until you stop talking to them/ about her to people you know that information will get back to her. Youve been emotionally and financially abused and cast-off like a paper bag from McDonalds. This is the first fall of many years i am alone now. As I read it, many common themes emerged. They may just reel you back in and it all starts again until you defy them and you are discarded all over again. Then new girl says I dont know him, he is happy now and she thinks she knows him better after 3 months than i did for 20 years. Which is dumb, but I still find myself wondering. Even though, I dont have time right now to go through RodMans comment, here are my thoughts. I did think he would kill me one day if I didnt get out. Her sickness is ALL HER. Once we begin to really and truly love ourselves, we come to realize that what they did to us was unacceptable. If you are a really good person, keep being that person, even start volunteering to put good out there to block our her negativity on you or start a small business or craft stall that is totally yours and be proud of you. Now, I feel that if one is to be a friend, that they might want to extend their friendship to me as well. I stricktly wrote him never never to contact me again. Anyhow, Im glad both of you men are posting here. He is a tortured soul. A few days ago one of my coaching clients contacted me with an interesting request. If you counted how many times he used the word I, you'd roll your eyes. You know what hell she put me through. In the last six months I found out she had been back in contact with a family friend who was a millionaire. This male is 63 years old and no end of this obsession in sight. You perfectly described my last relationship of the past 4 years. Speaking as a woman who was ripped off of about $80,000 between the last two narcs/sociopaths I was involved with and who sweet-talked and seduced me and played Prince Charming so well they fooled everyone initially and then left me devastated and Im still suffering from PTSD and on meds years laterwell, it just doesnt seem fair to read what you wrote. There were many red flags in the beginning which of course I ignored because it made me felt good seeing her and spending time with her. when narcissist has canceririna emelyanova pasternak 26th February 2023 / in coastal carolina football camp 2022 / by / in coastal carolina football camp 2022 / by My narc always told me it was in the house and even offered help to find. My poor friend just sat there with a glazed look; she barely got a word in. But yes, I agree that both men and women with narcissistic disorders cause massive amounts of damage to the ones that cared for them. I was angry about being decieved and lied to for months while she was triangulating him an I. I called her and told her I finally knew the truth. So we see the damaged person still walking around cloaking their pain and we feel for them. Generally, when confronted he gets super nasty..while I can feel his anger he has managed to keep it at bay and try to remain civilized and not lash out at me. I put her growing abusive and physical temper down to myself and not being good enough for her. I know a few of these women and I have been one of the very few shoulders they have to lean on. A full-on communication stop after a breakup is rare these days. Hes totally using her for her fame because shes good at what he wants to be good at. He began making friends unknown to me and did not include me on outings. Believe me! **************** After years of abuse, they realized they were in a destructive relationship and harmed them, so they left. If shes a really good friend, you may want to tell her about your experience and explain to her what your Narc was like. Or maybe the narcissist humiliated or degraded us even further or rubbed new relationships in our face. The problem is that it can get synced up with the narcissistic abuse cycle so that the level of dopamine in the brain drops when we are not in contact with the narcissist. Thank you. Thank you. This is about THEM, All they need us for is to use us, lie to us, be nasty to us, verbally, emotionally & in some cases physically abuse us & dump all their hatred onto us, to make them feel bigger, stronger & better about themselves, and its all not their fault really I met this wonderful woman who rocked my world we we both 29. Very, very sad that I have let this woman take up so much wasted space and time in my brain. I wrote him and told him to never contact me again. Will I have to spend the rest of my life worried that he will make a sudden appearance in my life just because or to cause trouble personally or professionally? Theyll collect incriminating evidence about you, and when they need to, theyll use it against you. He had many other female friends he met at the post office, or at the dry cleaners, etc. Affected all aspects of my life. I love the way you feel on me. If a letter comes, dont open it, burn it. Be safe and contact a Domestic Violence Shelter too, worst thing is when they know youre going to leave they act all nice loving even apologizing again. They need to take time to reflect and heal. And he is holding on, believing I am the love of his life. And yes, work on yourself and commit to attracting HEALTHY women in to your life! He said no I came to kill you, I was like what? Receiving a text or DM from an ex can trigger some strong feelings. When I was told ten years ago I had brain tumor over the phone I was on my way to therapy. So, the satellite and internet services were in his name, when he left, I expected him to have it shut off especially since he left, he moved his new supply into a new house and the satellite tv company sent a email to our online account verifying the work order to install cable in their new house. A part of me is disgusted by him, and a part of me is fascinated by the mirroring and gas lighting. . Ive come to accept he will neve change and that he will never ever come back to me ( not even to apologize for the hell hes making me go throught and affecting our son too). I suppose it also really bummed me out that whenever she would walk away, I would play chicken with her to see if she would come back before I would. I really thought he had gone, truly truly thought he had gone. Margo. I just didnt like the way he seemed to be larger than life. But it has to. In your situation it must be even harder. I lost contact with all other family members. Reclaim your inner power, disarm the narcissist, and finally stay congruent with your wish for a healed life! MY choice to be a Christian and follow a moral path is what polices me to do rightEVEN when I know someone would let me get away with doing wrong. Yes, I truly thought she may have been my soul mate after all, although even then I was skeptical at how extremely clingy she was. I dont really get the difference between someone whos simply infatuated, someone whos co-dependent, and someones a true narcissist based on that letter of a narcissist. I have a real one for you. In my scenario sometimes narc knows, sometimes doesn't. If he does know, it triggers hoover, if doesn't know I still win. I literally have no idea. - Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed, How Can I Be Sure Hes a Narcissist? Do narc do stuff like this, get you ready for their return by leaving clues like that? 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