I was second and the dog was always placed first. When they have the world revolving around a dog, eventually they put you to the back of the line! We got her at a shelter about 2 years ago. His response to this you can love my dog now. I started a new relationship in January this year with a guy that does not like my dog. My partner was ok with it but every now and again says he doesnt like it. If your husband complains about your dog constantly or your wife snaps at your cat, you might assume that the pet is the problem or that your partner hates your pet. I can understand where you are coming from totally. No. Hes 8 years old now. I dont know what to do this dog is nice (I guess) but has flaws that far outweigh the positives Its beginning to tear my girlfriend and I apart because I cant grow to like this dog I know its probably selfish of me, but I cant snap out of this attitude. Dogs need to learn whos alpha in order for them to recieve any kind of gratitude from me. So, we gonna look into what you can do when your husband/boyfriend wants to get rid of or rehome your dog. Id like to post a general question to the audience concerning the health of dogs and their owners. I was very harsh dragging her by the leash when she wouldnt come and spanking her what she pottied in the house.the day I got her for shots she was so small and not very healthy that she got sick. The damn creature will go down, spend an inordinate amount of time staring at blank air, and practically doing anything but what it was crying to do earlier in the house. My dog IS a one-person-dog. Tell him, "We're just going to look," and see if he falls in love. Omg,I can soooooooo relate- except that my SO has cats instead of a dog. So 4 years in we have 1 dog so neurotic i wimpers and is stuck to her heel the whole time shes home, it has to sleep under the bed she would have it on the bed if i didnt make a stand, it sits on her whenever she sits. A dog should be a part of a family, and it is unfair for the dog to be unwanted. My partner has two dogs and as much as they are cute I can not stand them for me everyday is a struggle, I cant stand the smell (dogs have this natural odor I hate), I cant stand the begging the dog hairs everywhere, the constant attention seeking. Are you sure its just fur rather than lack of feeling important to youmore than an animal? Just last year my Siberian Husky Anya was involved in an attempted aduction by my ex boyfriend and he lured her with the exact same example you provided. He lied about liking animals and expects me to comply with his demand of putting them in a shelter, or else. Hes nuts. They require more time and work than I want to give. I think my jaw dropped when I read this because I thought I might have written it in my sleep! Please treat them as such. Now with my partner its so different. If that werent the case, I would never ask him to do anything that he would struggle with or resent, and nor would I allow anyone to expect me to change big aspects of my lifestyle either. I accidentally stepped on her foot and caught myself (minimal impact). I am already stressed with the thought about it, there goes our days of sleeping in and quality time. THEY JUST HAVE FUR, FOUR LEGS AND ARE FUREVER LOYAL TO YOU NO MATTER WHAT! I was completely unaware of the shedding/stinking issue until we moved in together 6 months ago! And then the begging by the table and petting them while we are eating and letting them lick the plats. He has had training and about every option there is for this issue and he just cant stop. He constantly complains that it is in the way. He paid for her happily, he bought tonnes of new things happily, he paid for her spayed happily, he made her a beautiful wood bed, with memory foam mattress, happily. But, gradually, in no time, your dog will, On a beautiful sunny morning, you and your pooch go for a walk outside your house. After my first wife died I remarried to a woman who had dogs. Even when we can, were on a time limit because they dont want to head off to bed and have her dog on their bed with him, so she cant keep him there past midnight. Jrs r waaaay too unpredictable around children. she claims hes depressed with her daughter not being here. If IT doesnt go,he cant bare to leave IT ALL alonee. I feel your pain. Im want him to be happy but not at the expense of being held captive & having these dogs thrust upon me. Sometimes you cant have it all. i said uhmmmnooo.extreme much? The idea is to allow the dog to sleep in bed, but under your feet. And the point is that we soon might be go live on our (as we are staying with friends until we can financially afford to live on our own), and of course he wants his dogs! When I just arrived, he didnt want me to sleep with him because he didnt want to disturb the dogs, who slept in the bed every night! Sure, I will go through some ups and downs of separation and divorce, as the marriage didnt make it, but in the end, I am sure without such negativity I will be much happier on a day-to-day basis. Your right.. Im truly sorry your dealing with this still jetaime. The person in this thread who wrote: I never thought in my life I would have to give up my animals. Simple. I would not wish my past experience on anyone, it was very painful. I kept telling him,Dogs are expenisive, Blah blah HE KNEW I WASNT THRILLED with the idea of a dog. She did say she was open to having me help train him to break the pattern, but I still feel like shes just gotten too comortable with the convenience of dropping her dog off at her parents house. After the last two pass we needed to be dog free. I did also tell him about this website and that Im not alone feeling like this, I think that helped him see things from my perspective as well. For me, I would like to train my dog new commands every single day. Its not the dog, its the owner. You will NEVER come first. She had a 10 year old golden when we met and I bonded with both the girl and dog. Issues with an introduction: Sometimes, the issue with the introduction to other pets. The most obvious reason is the lack of training and attention. I tell him she was with me before we met, he hates her because my ex got her for me. He said that it had been almost a year since he was able to really be affectionate towards his wife. IMO dogs are pack animals and do better in family situations anyway, so being forced into a solitary situation with one single person creates a LOT of anxiety and behavior problems (aka, like your girlfriends dog). Then you need to take action to solve whatever issue the dog has with that promise on your hand, resulting in the husband/boyfriend refusing to get rid of the dog. I asked him to go with me but doubt he will. I love animals and I feel bad about my resentment towards my husbands dogs. The truth is, had I known this would be the life of living with a larger sized dog with two coats, it would have been a deal breaker from the start. By continuing to live there you are becoming part of the problem. If all responsibilities about the dog are assigned to him, like giving exercises morning and afternoon, taking the dog for grooming, veterinary checkups, and other duties, his concern is fair. Animals just dont cut it. No amount of medical evidence is able to change his mind he is adamant. I guess I am just talking out of my a**, but it just seems easier if I was alone and maybe find someone who doesnt have a dog and actually thinks the way I do. If your hubby cant understand that? He walks the dog, feeds him, plays with him, buys him toys, and so on. Wow, what a slap in the face. He barked back as if he was getting murdered. A year on and he works full time and he cant take dog with him, I work from home so I look after both dogs, sometimes my partner doesnt even take them for walks in the evening as hes so tired from work and he gets upset if I dont go for a walk with him ,but its all right for me to walk the dogs during the day by myself. Hes had this dog for six years prior to me, so shes been with him for a long time. She is your typical this is my fur child its like taking care of a baby. Your bf will never be that person. Its the easy way out. She sits there and just begs for constant attention, she emits the most awful depressed and anxious energy , she just wanders around the house and stands there with her head down in distress. There seems to be two types of dog lovers: the Nuts and the normal people who dont anthropomorphize their pets. Although, my pets were always part of my family, loved and cared for, but never to the point they usurped a human member of my family. They are not. has involved marriage, a dog can not provide what her husband does. When I get home from work, it literally feels like I am being pummeled in all directions because the dogs are jumping on me, barking, practically bouncing off the walls with crazed excitement. If your dog likes someone, they are usually good. According to them, your dog is supposed to have the run of the house. Today had an argument with my husband about his dog. If my husband would meet me halfway and at least hold the baby long enough for me to take the dog out then he wouldnt have the occasional accident now. Im the one who cleans, and Im sick of cleaning cat hair of of EVERYTHING in the house. Learning stages for a puppy are very difficult and tiring on them, too. I dont believe it is actually the dogs fault, although Ive grown out of love with him and more into extreme dislike, one because Ive always been a bit allergic, he makes me itchy, and he smells like foot fungus the two get me frustrated and grossed out. I dont want to be a police officer in my own house and I dont want to build a strong foundation for our married life together. Im sure this isnt the answer you want to hear but its the answer you already know: its time to move on. Instead we come out realizing that there are dog-obsessed freaks out there. She was well trained, stayed home with family when we traveled. Hes taking his threats a bit rough, like taking the whole fingers in the mouth but I think hes gonna learn to take it gentle with some training. He is sweet and sheds much less and does not stink!!! I cant deal with this dog anymore but my boyfriend wont even consider finding another better home for her. The dog relented at first and then allowed him and I watched him plant his lips firmly on the side of her muzzle. So, now in my third year of marriage I am reading and learning, more and more about this phenomenon because I love my wife but not her attachment to her dogs. Now onto our 2nd dog. God made man and woman to live together, what God has joined together, nobody can not separate, much less a useless dog. There are no boundaries or discipline. If my boyfriend catches him doing that he will go stomp his feet at beau and yell at him telling him to go play. Its an obsession. He will not compromise at all on this issue. In your case he made it so clear that his dog is number one in his life and if you were ever to get married to him you will forever take a back seat to that animal and its master. My boyfriend and I recently (within the past 3 years) bought a home and our first Dog (a rescue) shortly after, my mother fell in love with her, she got one of her own. They come out there, put their mouth at the table because we have breakfast food on there and wipe drool on the table (throw up city!) Having an animal demanding my attention like that and jumping on me, clawing at me, nosing my hands, whining, barking it just sets my teeth on edge. Be Polite but Vigilant. Im in the exact same predicament. The biggest mistake was bringing the dog into the bed because now hes trained to think thats where hes supposed to be. She wants to go with me to see my friend and his wife and baby in Florida, but I dont see it happening. Just like having one boy and one girl as children, I want one cat and then Ill be happy. Just food for thought. Dog nuts just dont get it. I am living it. His bed and couch are covered in hair. thats saying a lot because I dont believe the people here they act like its so easy to find a mate and it isnt! Absolutely the worst decision I have ever made to try to share my home with this thing that has absolutely NO RULES whatsoever for how it behaves. Ive tried my hardest to train her, and even my boyfriend (of 4 years ) has made several concessions. Hes sometimes licking feet and legs and she finds it gross but I think hes just trying to show love. I told him that he needs to come clean up the yard and talk to the landlord himself since his name is still on the lease. Thank you so much for your words of kindness and caution. and our Human companionships challenge you and force you to try and see someone elses perspective and to think of their needs because you know that they wont always agree with you. I will, however, say I love my dog. Sorry, pooch, no pups in the bedroom or on the furniture. I am so sorry that so many are having a terrible time with their pets and partners. They were very terrified. Society leads us to believe that if you arent way into dogs then theres something wrong with you. And my poor dog is outside at 4 a.m. That being said, you are being selfish and cannot say live your life to keep him happy. She is a pit bull, but very submissive. Now I ask you this, if you had to hold your poss for 10 or 12 hours at night, would you not have an occasional accident? Is there any way we could train my dog to be obediant with my husband just so this will stop. Im very attached to him. The more I read about this in other blogs the more I realize its not even the dogs fault its his! We had moved in together knowing he couldnt have his dog, he said he was okay with that. They dont have to compromise with their dog so the dog replaces a lot of relationships in a lot of scenarios. Like you said, there has to be some give and take and thats what youll have to do if you want to be with him and vice versa so you both and can happy. 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